Men’s Health

I am passionate about the mental health and general wellbeing of men, both young and old. I recognise that messages like ‘boys don’t cry’, and ‘man up’ are harmful and cause men to suffer in silence. My aim is to support men in overcoming the stigma of reaching out, as well as allowing them to develop fully as men, for their benefit, and for those around them. I recognise that we typically seek help when things are going badly and that sometimes we’ve been told to ‘get help’.

I understand that you might not know where to start and that it’s hard to talk about the tough or uncomfortable stuff. That is okay. Let’s just chat about how to get things back on track, and I promise you won’t have to sing Kumbaya (unless that’s your thing, and then you are free to be you and belt out a tune).

Why don’t men like seeing a psychologist?

Misconceptions:

  • Talking doesn’t help
  • I have to sort this out myself
  • D&Ms are so exhausting and pointless
  • Relationships are always conflicted and difficult
  • People always fight and hurt each other
  • Life is always going to be hard
  • Nothing can or will change, just from talking
  • It’s pathetic to talk or cry or seek help
  • Psychologists are all wishy washy, have their shit together, uptight, judgy and will blame me or side with my partner (etc)

 

Therapy is a problem-solving partnership that helps you gain greater understanding of yourself. Both the content and process of therapy is important to successful outcomes. Therapy empowers you to decide your own life direction. Deb provides the support and guidance to help you manage or resolve problems. Your sessions will be positive and rewarding. While It will take effort to break old habits and form new ones, you’ll have support every step of the way. Deb will actively listen, guide you through changes, and celebrate your successes. Using the latest evidence-based therapies, she’ll equip you with coping skills and strategies to handle life’s challenges.

Why men usually don’t like talking to psychologists

Men often hesitate to seek psychological support due to societal norms, emotional expression, and perceptions of therapy. Key barriers to accessing support can include:

 

Societal Norms and Rigid Masculinity: Traditional roles emphasise self-reliance and emotional stoicism, making seeking help seem weak or shameful. You don’t have to sort stuff out on your own!

Mental Health Stigma: Fear of judgment or misunderstanding prevents men from disclosing their difficulties.

Emotional Expression: Socialisation to suppress emotions makes understanding feelings tricky and discussing feelings uncomfortable.

Therapy Perception: How can “just talking about it help?!” Misconceptions about therapy’s effectiveness lead men to think they should solve problems independently. Give it a go, and you will find out how talking can help, even if your circumstances don’t change.

Lack of Awareness: Men may not recognise mental health issues or understand therapy’s benefits.

Access and Availability: Time, cost, and logistical barriers can make it too hard to add on top of everything else in life.

Healthcare Experiences: Negative past interactions with healthcare providers can create distrust and put men off.